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Zoë has a free spirit…..

Zoë has a free spirit. Not my words. OK. I have used these exact words and the exact phrase to describe my daughter to someone who is meeting her for the first time, someone who might not be prepared for the Zoë Experience. I’ve used the phrase as a precautionary preamble in baby sitters’ instructions, as forward to an apology, in defense of disruptive public behavior and more often than any other, as a reminder to myself that my firstborn is truly a special gift sent by God to teach me what the joy of Heaven is really all about.

But, this time, I did not use the phrase or the words. No. These are the words from Zoë’s teacher as relayed on her very first 1rst grade report card. My wife and I absolutely love Zoë’s teacher! She has a youthful exuberance and excitement about teaching and it shows. Not an easy task for someone who has been teaching first and second graders for 17 years. She and Zoë have quickly become thick as thieves. Zoë thinks she hung the moon. And, in a matter of just a few short months, just over two to be more precise, she was able in total to describe our daughter with the exact five word phrase that we have been using for almost seven years.

The progress report revealed little if anything that I did not already know about Zoë. She meets or exceeds almost every academic standard evaluated, particularly language and reading. This, I know. Although she meets all standards in math her teacher thought to make mention of the need for continued work in this area. Again, I know. It’s something we work on daily, almost constantly. It is beyond me how a little girl who can read and pronounce words such as assemblyman, president, mining company, Alaska, diphtheria (so the last one she got help from the book—dif-THEER-ee-ah, I didn’t know that and almost dropped one of the twins when she came up with the word on her own) can not tell the difference between a dime and a nickel. It’s a work in progress and I’m happy to report we have made huge strides.

Music, another category where Zoë excels.  Again,
I know.  She started taking piano lessons the very same week she turned 4 years old.  And no, we did not force her.  It was her decision, something she wanted to do.  I bought one of those inexpensive Yamaha keyboards figuring at least if she decided piano was not for her we wouldn’t be out a ton of money on a behemoth musical instrument that merely collects dust and serves as a credenza.  One year later, on her fifth birthday we were scouring the classifieds for a behemoth credenza.  (It sounds beautiful.)

Zane is truly a pleasure… Not my words. Again, I have used them many times but these are the words of his kindergarten teacher. You see, kindergarteners also bring home progress reports and like his older sister, Zane received glowing remarks. Remarks that put to rest any fears we may h ave had about sending Zane to school too early. (His birthday falls on the age cutoff day and Zane is the youngest kid in his class. I know, somebody’s kid has to be the youngest. But why mine?)  He has shined. Again, like his older sister, he meets or exceeds every standard evaluated.

You know, as parents we all wish nothing but the best for our children. My great joy comes from watching my children flourish as I send them timidly into the world to experience new things. OK. So, Zoë does not go timidly. She runs into school every morning like her pants are on fire. The girl is on a mission to make every single person she comes into contact with during the course of a day smile or even better, laugh. She has a zest for life and the fantastic thing about that is she refuses to horde it. She feels it must be shared.

Zane is blossoming. He is learning that the world is a pretty cool place even in the bright and shiny areas outside of Zoë’s shadow. I know that my kids are great. As a parent, though it’s really nice to hear it from someone else.

Lagniappe:  Live-Heaven

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11 2007

Six days…..

No more pencils
No more books
No more teacher’s dirty looks…..School’s out for summer!!

Well, not just yet but the countdown has definitely begun.  Zo
ë has but six days remaining and my boy, Z just finished his final day of pre-K.  His class celebrated the occasion with a picnic in the park.  It could not have been a more perfect day, sun shining brightly in a cloudless blue sky and temperatures in the mid eighties.  There were hordes of juice boxes, brownies, cookies, cupcakes and lots and lots of sliding.  Nothing says school’s out to a bunch of four and five year olds like mounds of sugar laden treats and a fifteeen foot twirly slide.  As I stood on the sides of the playground watching Z bounce from activity to activity I couldn’t help but to reflect on the closing school year and perhaps ponder what the future holds.

In early February, we enrolled Z in a different school.  He had begun the year in our local pre-K program and much to our dismay was languishing there.  He never complained, he really never does and were it not for my wife having visited his school we would never have known.  We were shocked to find that our happy, energetic, vibrant and full of life little boy was spending his mornings at pre-K alone, on the outskirts of all the activities actually refusing to participate and worse yet not even being encouraged to do so by other classmates or the teachers.  They thought he was just “shy“. 

There were things along the way that I suppose in retrospect would have given us insight into his unhappiness there.  The papers he brought home were usually colored with only one color with no apparent consideration to form or content or they were just left blank altogether.  Granted, we are talking about a four year old boy that can barely hold a crayon.  But he colors.  All of the time.  And his artwork usually has form, a concept and different colors.  I’ve got very interesting wall murals in just about every room of my house to prove it.  Those Magic Erasers from Mr. Clean really do work.  Oh, and as a side…the no mess finger paint from Crayola is a crock!  It’s supposed to only color on this special paper and nothing else.  All true.  But no mess?  It took my kids only three minutes of unsupervised creativity to realize that the stuff, when scooped out in sufficient quantity makes a really interesting hair gel.

Anyway, Z thrived in his new school environment.  The change in his work was immediately evident, completed papers in multiple colors and a noticeable effort to stay within the boundries delineated by the thick black outlines of the characters he was drawing.  He even talked about some of his new friends calling them by name, something he never did at his other school.  The change was good.  My only regret was that we waited so long to notice.

One of our primary goals for Z this school year was quite simply, to expose him to the school environment and learn to enjoy being around other kids.  Socialization.  My wife and I were pretty confident that there was absolutely nothing that pre-K was going to add to his knowlege base.  He knows his alphabet, can count way high sometimes by fives, does simple addition and subtraction, has started to read and just last week I think he may have discovered a new element and a way to use it to increase gas mileage all the while decreasing harmful carbon emissions.  OK.  So maybe he can’t count by fives.  But the kid is smart.  Freaky smart.  

Point number one in my year of reflection.  Get involved with your child’s education.  Had my wife not taken the time to visit Z’s school we would never have known of his unhappiness.  Don’t expect the school to educate your child, as a parent, that’s your job.  School should be an enjoyable experience where freindships are established and cultivated and the knowlege base you have provided your child is expanded and applied to the world in a broader context.  Make sure that is happening at your child’s school and if it isn’t, intervene.

Point number two.  Meet and get to know your child’s teacher.  If at any point during the school year you feel your child is not being challenged by their teacher, challenge the teacher.  Case in point.  Zoë, at the ripe old age of “just turned six”, is a remarkable reader.  She started about a year ago with these BOB Books and just took off.  Some of the things she has recently read unassisted:  “Papa, Please Get the Moon for Me”, by Eric Carle, “In the Castle”, by Anna Milbourne, “Don’t Let the Pigeon Drive the Bus!”, by Mo Willems, “The Perfect Nest”, by Catherine Friend, “Fox in Sox”, by Dr. Seuss, and “War and Peace”, by Leo Tolstoy.  OK.  So she didn’t really read “Fox in Sox” unassisted.  Hell, I can’t even read that one by myself! 

Her reading assignments from school however, were less than challenging.  I’d like to be politically correct here but in all honesty the books she brought home to read to us were a joke.  Basically some watered down version of a Clifford story that took Zoë all of three minutes to read.  After several polite requests for some more challenging material went unheeded, my wife met with Zoë’s teacher, brought her a copy of one of the third grade readers Zoë had completed the previous night and basically told her to step it up.  Zoë was floundering and quite frankly the reading material she was bringing home was not going to cut it anymore.  That night, Zoë brought home a copy of “Frog and Toad are Friends”, by Arnold Lobel.  Message received and we all read happily ever after.

And finally, point number three.  (I heard once that all good sermons had three points.)  Do not be afraid of change.  This one is, at least for me probably the hardest.  I abhor change.  The very thought of having to alter my routines, my norms, the ruts of my life that so securely surround me puts my stomach in knots.  I get physically ill at the very thought of having to do something different.  I read somewhere that the three biggest life changes someone can make are: getting married, moving/buying a new house and starting a new job.  Seven years ago I did all three in two days, and the new home and job part was 1200 miles away.  I was a wreck!  And just look at me today.  I’ve got five great children, a beautiful wife, four cats, two dogs and a partridge in a pear tree….I’m still a wreck!

We made one difficult change this school year with Z in his pre-K class.  The next big one will be this August when we move Zoë to a new school to start First Grade.  She seems to be handling things much better than I am.  I still can’t talk about leaving her school without feeling some sense of remorse, that I have let the school down in some way.  It’s a small school, intimate and they have loved Zoë for two years now.  She’s like the mayor there.  Everyone knows her and always stops to tell her hi, and I’m not just talking about the teachers.  Kids in fifth and sixth grade can’t pass by without yelling out, “Hey, Zoë.”  When I ask her who that was she nonchallantly replies, “One of the big kids.  They all know me.”

Starting over in a new school is going to be tough but one of the things I have learned during my tenure as parent is that kids are extremely resilient.  Zoë is going to be just fine in her new school and I’m also sure that in no time she’ll be it’s new self appointed mayor.

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